Our preparation for a ceremony, so personal, so intimate; needs

moments of our time as a couple.

It is important to make time together; a  dinner, a walk, scheduled for two -

without interruption.

Take this time to play, to get quiet together, to get creative.  This is where your

common vision comes together, and comes together only, with individual ideas.  As you blend

your ideas, you begin the practice of blending a life, a life embraced by marriage; a practice

which will serve you for a lifetime of successes, both big and small.

A  partnership, embraced in marriage, is meant to be joyful, easy. 

It is our birthright to be happy.

Try having a conversation around….

What your most outrageous wedding would look like?

How's the best way we can mess with the seating plan?

What's your biggest fear around

1.)Existing family members blending by this marriage

2.)Career dreams (changing??)

3.)Children? No children?

Where can you fit in regarding your partner's goals and daily doings?  Will you offer to be a part of or

will you make clear your current independence?

What's the most ridiculous thing in your life right now?  This may be a time to ask for feedback or a new perspective from your partner -  they may help you find the funny! creating lighter space around the situation to better able to see the solution or changes that can be made.

           This is just an example of some constructive time together, enjoyable time which feeds                       creativity and  intimacy. Leave the judgments and stresses of the time somewhere else.

           Remember when you first fell in love? 

           Hold that thought.

Quality Time

Rev. Jacqueline Bowman, PhD., MMsc.

Wedding Officiant, Ontario Registrar General, Canada

http://www.JacquelineBowman.com/weddings1.html

1. (519) 489. 0637